This post on another ClubMom blog doesn't have much to do with photography. But this does. Kind of. But only because it's a picture of my 8-year-old. That's the only reason. But, I thought it might give my concerns a little context. See, she's friggin' adorable. Get my drift? I'm sure you will and it will help you understand why the topic at Just a Normal Day intrigues me so. I am all too quickly approaching those days of questioning if I am doing right by my daughter, like Rebecca is questioning it over at her blog. You know, with her son. And a girl...a pretty girl (yikes) and their emails. OMG, I'm cringing. Can you see me cringe? And the trouble with it all is that there is not a cut and dry, black and white answer for her. Or for me.
Dear God, please let there be no boys or emails from them in our future. God? Um, are you laughing?
Any tips, thoughts, tid-bits or insights you want to share with us over here?? I know Rebecca would appreciate it and I'm gonna take gooooood notes!
Sorry I have no tips or insights. I am right with you. I have two girls ages 7 and 8. Yikes!
Posted by: Kimberly C. | 10/12/2006 at 05:26 PM
My sister stated with her sons (prior to them statrting to email and IM) that she and her husband would periodically check their emails and IMs - no debating this! It has worked well for them. My advise for you and your daughter - tell her before she starts to email and there will be no questions about it. Good luck!
Posted by: Colleen | 10/12/2006 at 05:49 PM
As moms, we all know we can't wish problems away. When I was a pre-teen/teenager, it was all about who called who on the phone--the boy or the girl?
In the 21st century, our children have so many ways to connect with friends. Boys don't call girls anymore--they text message them. They can IM or e-mail.
My three oldest kids are 23, 20, and 18. I learned I have to be involved with their lives. I have to be aware of possible problems--and make sure they are aware of them too. As much as I talked to my kids (sometimes it felt liked I just talked AT them) I had to listen twice as much.
Set your boundaries--and then talk with your children about those boundaries.
Tell them you love them over and over and over again--and that's why you are protecting them. And tell them you are proud of them for making wise choices. (They like to hear that--they need to hear that!)
Nowadays, our kids don't have to go looking for trouble--it will come looking for them via the internet. Be protective--and be proactive.
Beth
www.mommycomelately.com
Posted by: Beth K. Vogt | 10/12/2006 at 06:46 PM
I agree with the others... she's a doll. She reminds me of my daughter, who also loves clothes, dressing up and mixing different pieces. Let her run free with it!
Posted by: Charity Wilt | 10/12/2006 at 06:57 PM